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Marital and Couples Counseling

Over the past 33 years of working with couples at all stages of their relationship I have seen that many couples who come in for communication deficiencies engage in what I call “circular arguing”. Circular reasoning is where one partner brings up an issue (usually when irritated) to get change for and the other partner hears a completely different issue and argues back about that...
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"Perceptual Filters" shape what we experience communications through. They are based in our history, the history of a relationship, and personal issues. You may want to tell your partner that you would like some behavior changed and think you correctly communicated that in a non-threatening manner. Based on their filters they may hear your request as a criticism and ardently defend their position and actions, leaving you feel misunderstood and attacked. Good couples counseling assesses individual perceptual filters and assists couples to hear more accurately what their partner is trying to say to them and to be heard more accurately themselves.


Pre-marital Counseling

When two people are “in love” it is easy to overlook the “red flag”, ultimately intolerable, differences in how people interact and what they expect of their partner long-term. Unfortunately, all too often these things get “unpacked” in the first year or two of a marriage...
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As individuals we have needs and expectations, traditions and family goals that may or may not be shared in depth in the dating period. In my work with engaged couples I have found that it is usually these arenas on which conflicts arise. Unspoken individual norms are often assumed as "common sense", when in actuality they are often very different. By identifying these and discussing ahead of time how to combine needs and get on the same page with expectations, couples learn to avoid the typical first few years difficulties in learning to understand and be understood by one another.


Depression Therapy

Depression has become almost epidemic in our culture and many still hold to the stigma of believing it results from inefficient coping skills. In some religious systems it is seen as a lack of trust and faith in a loving God, therefore the sign of spiritual weakness and is condemned by misinformed leadership...
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Anxiety

People experience anxiety when the body dumps an excess of adrenaline and cortisol into the system. These naturally occurring chemicals were designed to help us run away from or have the superhuman strength we may need when in extreme danger or addressing it beyond our normal limits...
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Parenting

Parenting Styles and Skills vary and are often fluid with societal trends and norms. Most people want to be the best parent and certainly at least as good as if not far surpassing their own upbringing. Most strive to create the environment most likely to foster healthy, responsible, creative, and successful offspring...
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Diversity

People from all walks of life, cultures, belief systems, alternative persuasions, etc. need to feel they are in a non-judgmental safe environment to explore the deep underlying issues that bring them to counseling. Good counselors work within the individual’s orientation and see things from their perspective rather than attempting to bring them to their own...
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Christian Counseling

Christianity by design is counter culture in many respects in this post-christian era. Most who hold to this belief system are most comfortable working with a practitioner who follows their values and understands biblical mandates even better than they do at times...
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